Moving Away from Hawaii: 5 Key Considerations

Aloha everyone, I want to dive into a topic that hits close to home for many of us—the cultural transitions we face when moving away from Hawaii. Leaving the islands and venturing to new lands is undoubtedly an exciting chapter, but it also comes with unique challenges and adjustments. As fellow Hawaiians who have experienced this journey, there are things I wish I knew before making the move! Let’s explore 5 key considerations when moving away from Hawaii to help make the transition smoother and ensure we stay connected to our roots even from afar.

1. Embrace ‘Ohana Everywhere:

One of the most valuable aspects of Hawaiian culture is the sense of ‘ohana, or family. Moving away from Hawaii might mean leaving loved ones behind, but it also presents an opportunity to expand our ‘ohana beyond geographical boundaries. Seek out local Hawaiian communities, cultural events, or even social media groups that connect Hawaiians living on the mainland. 

This was a big deal for me.  The first time I moved away, I felt sheltered, alone, and disconnected because I did not make any effort to get to know my community.  It was a culture shock for me not to have family and friends stopping by often. I had forgotten how to go out and meet new people by getting involved.

Now that I have learned what I need to do, so of my recommendations are:

1. If you have kids, join the PTA or PTSA
2. Find a local church that aligns with your beliefs
3. Join neighborhood groups on facebook or in person by attending local events
4. Volunteer at your local senior living facility

We have to put ourselves out there to create authentic relationships that turn into ‘Ohana. If nothing else, get to know the elderly in your new community. Sit with them and drink coffee or tea.  Learn about how things were for them growing up, their stories, their journeys… Connect on a deeper level with them.  I have found that this has helped me a lot.

2. Share the Aloha Spirit:

The Aloha spirit is not confined to the islands—it’s a way of life we carry with us. Let’s continue to embody the values of love, compassion, and hospitality, spreading the Aloha spirit wherever we go. By sharing this warmth with our new friends and neighbors, we can create meaningful connections and bridge cultural gaps.This is something so important… It’s in my tagline! “Live Aloha Everywhere!”

One of the things I lost when I first moved away was my identity.  I didn’t know who I was or who I needed to be. It took me a while to embrace what everyone thought was weird about me.  The fact that I used the word “pau” in so many sentences without thinking twice.. And getting the confused looks from coworkers when I said “Call me when you pau work!”  I changed who I was to conform to my surroundings when in reality, all I had to do was be myself! 

The most important thing I learned throughout this whole thing is to be authentic in who you are.  Figure out what your purpose is here on earth and be yourself. The people who stick around are your true friends that ultimately will be ‘Ohana!

3. Preserve Cultural Traditions:

While we embrace new experiences, it’s essential to preserve our cultural traditions and practices. From celebrating holidays to preparing traditional dishes, keeping these customs alive reminds us of our roots and keeps the spirit of Hawaii thriving in our hearts.

I cannot stress enough how much I needed to keep my traditions alive in my household.  It brought a sense of normalcy to an environment where I felt out of place.  I remember learning how to make Kalua Pig in the crock pot for the first time.  I remember the sense of calming, joy, and relaxation when taking the first bite! 

Little by little, I learned how to make my favorite local dishes at home so I could pass the recipes on to my kids and grandkids.  From making Mochi on New Year’s eve, to sharing a little of Hawaiian cuisine at potlucks… bringing your culture into your community draws people to you and gives you a sense of home.

4. Embrace Local Culture:

As we adapt to our new surroundings, let’s take the time to learn about the local culture and history. Engaging with our new community’s traditions and values fosters mutual understanding and respect. We might even find surprising parallels between our Hawaiian heritage and the culture of our new home.

Every community has it’s own traditions and uniqueness about it.  It has been amazing getting to know my neighbors and community at local events.  Visiting local landmarks and learning the history of the place I am in has been so cool. Hawaiians/Locals are big on history and the story of our ancestors… I learned that learning about other place’s history, beginnings, and journey’s has brought a sense of connection to my heart.  You will start to understand why people are the way they are in your neck of the woods.

5. Stay Connected to Nature:

The stunning landscapes of Hawaii are irreplaceable, but staying connected to nature remains a crucial aspect of our well-being. Seek out parks, nature reserves, and scenic spots in your new area. Engaging in outdoor activities can help soothe the longing for the Hawaiian landscape while appreciating the beauty of your new environment.

I was fortunate to purchase a property in an area that reminds me of the Big Island. Lots of mountains, trees, greenery, farms, cattle, small communities… just to name a few. In the town I live in, my neighbor down the road is 95 years old and was born in the house she lives in. It was her grandparents’ home that had been passed down generations.  Sitting with her drinking tea, as she tells me stories of how things were growing up in this little town reminds me so much of Paauilo, HI.  

In conclusion, moving away from Hawaii opens the door to exciting opportunities for personal growth and cultural exchange. By embracing these five key considerations, we can navigate the cultural transitions with grace and authenticity. Remember, no matter where we are, our Hawaiian spirit can shine bright and inspire those around us. So, as we embark on this journey, let’s cherish our cultural roots, stay connected to our Hawaiian identity, and make the mainland a home filled with Aloha. Until next time, Mahalo for joining me on this adventure!

Aloha,

Rochelle